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Long or short it doesn't matter. Drive around the block in silence or with music. Maybe plan a trip somewhere.
The ability to make one’s own choices can offer flexibility and adaptation when circumstances change. This need may motivate questioning or resisting unnecessary restraints, exploring alternative options, and asserting personal preferences. Supporting free choice preserves individual creativity and responsibility, leading to more wholehearted engagement in tasks and decisions.
Having autonomy and freedom of choice is empirically linked to better motivation and well-being. Self-Determination Theory identifies autonomy (the freedom to choose one’s actions) as a basic psychological need; when this need is satisfied, people show enhanced intrinsic motivation and mental health (Ryan & Deci 2000, American Psychologist, 55(1), 68–78). In practical terms, studies have found that giving individuals more control over decisions leads to positive outcomes. A classic field experiment in a nursing home showed that residents given more choices and personal responsibility became more alert, active, and happier compared to those who had all decisions made for them (Langer & Rodin 1976). Thus, being able to choose freely tends to improve one’s engagement, well-being, and even health, whereas being overly controlled or without choice can undermine motivation and satisfaction.
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Long or short it doesn't matter. Drive around the block in silence or with music. Maybe plan a trip somewhere.
Often in conversation if I’m hearing something as a demand I say something like “I’m needing some autonomy I think because I’d like to be free to disagree but I’m afraid that might sound to you like criticism.” It’s not perfect but it’s something to honor what’s alive in me.
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